Good guys draw the line

Melissa McEwan of Shakesville quoted a bit of what Hannah Gadsby said at the 2018 Women in Entertainment gala. A summary: The “good men” like to talk about drawing a line. He says I stand with the good men. Here’s the line that separates me from the bad men. But, Gadsby says, there are problems: Men draw the line. They draw different lines depending on where they are (with wives or in a locker room). All men believe (because they moved the line) they are standing on the good side of the line. Women should control the line.

A commenter added:

I used to tell the ex, after whatever fight he had just picked, that it felt like he wrote himself as the hero of every interaction, especially the arguments, which meant he needed a villain, and guess who that always was.

I went on to read the whole original. This sentence jumped out at me because it is the essence of ranking:

But if you have to believe someone else is bad in order to believe you are good, you are drawing a very dangerous line.