Prevent unwanted pregnancies

Want to stop abortion? Prevent unwanted pregnancies. To me that has meant providing widely available birth control. But Gabrielle Blair, in a long Twitter thread, says I’m only skimming the surface. She’s a Mormon mother and is tired of the usual arguments about banning abortion.

Before I get to her discussion I’ll cover an area she doesn’t get to. Men say they want to stop abortion and claim they care for the life of the unborn. But the real reason is because they want the woman pregnant and in the home – and out of the workplace, which they consider their domain. Yes, this an aspect of social hierarchy or ranking, which I discuss frequently. Blair’s discussion is too.

Blair takes the whole discussion in a different direction. Along the way she talks about aspects of the sexual act. And uses the words necessary to discuss it.

Want to prevent unwanted pregnancies? It’s all about men and irresponsible ejaculation.

There’s birth control! Yes. But the side effects can brutal (something I hadn’t heard of – yeah, I’m a guy). An oral contraceptive was developed for men. It didn’t get approval because of the side effects. Yet women still take them, in spite of the side effects, to avoid being pregnant. We as a society don’t mind if women suffer if it makes life easier for men.

There are condoms! They’re quite effective, help prevent disease, easily available and easy to use, and are really low in side effects. But that one side effect is a deal-breaker for men. Their pleasure is an 8 rather than a 10.

So… there are men willing to risk getting a woman pregnant — which means literally risking her life, her health, her social status, her relationships, and her career, so that they can experience a few minutes of _slightly_ more pleasure? Is that for real? Yes. Yes it is.
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It’s mind-boggling and disturbing when you realize that’s the choice men are making. And honestly, I’m not as mad as I should be about this, because we’ve trained men from birth that their pleasure is of utmost importance in the world. (And to dis-associate sex and pregnancy.)
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Let’s talk more about responsibility. Men often don’t know, and don’t ask, and don’t think to ask, if they’ve caused a pregnancy. They may never think of it, or associate sex with making babies at all. Why? Because there are 0 consequences for men who cause unwanted pregnancies.

He doesn’t know if she becomes pregnant, he doesn’t know if she had an abortion, he doesn’t know if there is a child with his DNA. Child support? A joke.

Stop protesting at clinics. Stop shaming women. Stop trying to overturn abortion laws. If you actually care about reducing or eliminating the number of abortions in our country, simply HOLD MEN RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS.

Should the consequences be as “harsh, painful, nauseating, scarring, expensive, risky, and life-altering as forcing a woman to go through a 9-month unwanted pregnancy?” Perhaps castration? Too cruel and unusual? Worse than “forcing 500,000 women a year to puke daily for months, gain 40 pounds, and then rip their bodies apart in childbirth?”

Can’t wrap your head around a physical punishment for men? Even though you seem to be more than fine with physical punishments for women? Okay. Then how about this prevention idea: At the onset of puberty, all males in the U.S. could be required by law to get a vasectomy.
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If/when the male becomes a responsible adult, and perhaps finds a mate, if they want to have a baby, the vasectomy can be reversed, and then redone once the childbearing stage is over. And each male can bank their sperm before the vasectomy, just in case.

Stop abortions? Then stop unwanted pregnancies. The only way to it is to stop irresponsible ejaculation.

If you’re a man, what would the consequence need to be for you to never again ejaculate irresponsibly? Would it be money related? Maybe a loss of rights or freedoms? Physical pain?

Ask yourselves: What would it take for you to value the life of your sexual partner more than your own temporary pleasure or convenience?

Blair concludes:

STOP TRYING TO CONTROL WOMEN'S BODIES AND SEXUALITY. UNWANTED PREGNANCIES ARE CAUSED BY MEN.

Of course, she got pushback. A dude said, well, a woman can insist on a condom or she could refuse to spread her legs. Blair responded, you don’t understand power dynamics.